Question: Do all white men think all Black women are hoochie mama, welfare, child bearing, uneducated b******?
Answer: No, I don’t think all white men feel that way about Black women.
It probably feeds more into the fact that you want her to want Regardless, this seems like an issue of security in your marriage, and I would suggest seeing a trusted professional to talk things through.
They would ask me about the “colored kids” at my job as a camp counselor and spoke the word “bi-racial” in hushed tones, as if it were something to be ashamed of.
The go-to explanation most people seem to use when expounding on why Caucasian females prefer black men is low self esteem, and I’m inclined to agree with this on some level.
Any man, regardless of race, will admit that white men are at the top of the food chain in terms of sexual predilection among females the world over.
Maybe she wants someone who’s not like me.” Or maybe one time she was chatting with a Black guy, and you felt somewhat insecure about it, and then after that you may have created confirmation bias toward her being more friendly with Black guys.
I think the first step for you, sir, is to try to really step back and examine the possibility that you may be seeing this “attraction” simply because you’re afraid of it. And if you’re afraid of it, that doesn’t necessarily make you racist.