"I'm driving him away, I just know I am," she sniffed. If I don't know exactly where he is I get suspicious. Let's look at this in more depth: When we enter an intimate relationship we can feel very emotionally vulnerable; especially if we have felt let down or hurt in previous relationships. When we become anxious about anything, we start looking for signs of things 'going wrong' (nervous flyers look out for signs that the aircraft is in trouble). But we all need the comforts and support that intimacy can bring us."It's just that I love him so much and I can't bear the thought of losing him! These are the typical thoughts and feelings of the chronically insecure partner. And, of course, we usually find what we're looking for, even if it isn't really there at all. So what can you do if insecurity is blighting your relationships?And at times, the confusion in intimacy levels between two lovers can cause more pain and frustration that even a break up.
They'll imagine the bored look on an air steward's face to be barely concealed terror because, "He must know something we don't!This means you go out, flirt and play, make out, muck around, and not even think twice about getting in trouble. If she’s seeing other guys, it means she’ll be far less needy and demanding.You’ll have more freedom to do what you want, when you want, and be able to see her when you want to, rather than when she calls. If you’re also seeing other people, it won’t matter if she can’t see you because you’ll have other things to occupy your time with.How you experience life, people and what you learn conditions your reaction to people and conditions your behavior.We are also reinforcing behavior whether we know it or not. A woman learns how to be in relationships, based off of her relationship with her father. Some may also out you down, in order to lower your self-esteem, so that they can have their way with you." Emma had been badly hurt before by her former cheating fiancé. Part of her knew that her new man was decent, caring, and honest, but the emotional bit of Emma felt that it was "just a matter of time" before things went wrong."If he's quiet I actually start panicking! We perform constant monitoring: "Do they look fed up? Making stuff up and then believing it is a sure-fire way to self-torment.