If it does transmit, there’s an ~80% chance that they won’t recognize any symptoms from the infection.
Marie Claire: How has having a STI affected your dating life?
Are you stupid to continue a relationship with someone who has herpes? There are two viruses that people talk about when they talk about herpes: Herpes Simplex Virus 1 and Herpes Simplex Virus 2, or HSV-1 and HSV-2.
HSV-1 is the one that usually causes cold sores around your mouth and lips.
One in every six people between the ages of 14-49 have it, and the majority don't even know (! To help us demystify the experience, we spoke with herpes-positive blogger Ella Dawson, 23, to tell us about what really happens when you date with the STI.
Ella Dawson: Now, when I date, I have to have a conversation about the fact that I have an STI.
They may simply be terrified about how they are going to face the world.
Q: I’ve been seeing this girl and we’ve really been hitting it off. But my gut reaction is to ghost and never look back—I don’t want herpes! – Jason, San Antonio A: Finding out your partner has herpes can be a bombshell at any point in the relationship. But it is not nearly as unique or earth-shattering as you think it is. I know there a lot of thoughts and anxieties swirling in your head—about your partner’s health, about your health, about your partner’s fidelity, about your future (or lack thereof) with your partner—and we’ll get to all that.
That used to really freak me out, especially in the beginning when I was newly diagnosed and still learning about the virus and very self-conscious about it.
It can be really scary to have a conversation with someone that you just started dating because you're so worried that the other person will judge you in that moment.
That's particularly true when your love life is in flux. After herpes diagnosis, people may be worried about being judged.
When someone is first diagnosed, the thought of dating with herpes can fill them with horrible anxiety. They may be scared they could spread herpes to their future partners.