First, Beth reviewed the literature and research we had on file.With this in mind, I reviewed our interviews with men and women who were planning to marry and videos of two focus groups we had run with single men.
She told me that her friends were jealous of our friendship, because of how cute I was. The last time I’d started a relationship, communication outside of meeting up was using the phone (landline phone –that is how old I am) in my parents’ bedroom hoping that nobody else would overhear.She said, “You reinforce the myth that the reason men don’t commit is that the women in their lives do something wrong. In most cases, it’s the man in a relationship who decides he isn’t ready or doesn’t want to get married, and he makes this decision without any help from the woman." After telling Beth that more than three hundred women had worked with me on the marriage research and not one had made the comment she just offered, I apologized. My interviews with single men had shown there were men who would not commit.Beth was also right when she said that if I could help women identify which men were more likely to commit, I would be performing a real service.It’s not that you’re no longer interested in sex; it’s just that you’re no longer interested in sex with your husband.” Middle-age moms get a bad rap when it comes to sex.They’ve either lost their sex drive because of hormones, or they’re too consumed with their kids, exhausted from trying to have it all, having body-image issues, or they’re not spending enough “quality” time with their husbands.Just like how you’ve dated your share of challenging types of men like the Pinger, the Couch Potato and the older-and-balder-than-his-profile-guy…men also meet and enter into relationships with less-than-impressive types of women.