Please take a look at two different viewers’ attempts to deal with a compulsive liar.
These strategies may not work for everyone, but hopefully they give people some options and ideas about how to cope with a compulsive liar.
And if you have any successful strategies that have worked for you, please feel free to share them with us so that other people might benefit from your experience. Here’s how I tried to get my boyfriend to stop lying: It is possible to get a compulsive liar to change, but he’s going to have to be confronted over and over with the truth of his lying ways, and it’s going to be a long, systematic, and strategic process.
I’ve been systematically exposing my boyfriend’s lying ways over the last few months.
At this point the habit gets disrupted, maybe not broken, but at least disrupted.
From there I began to weave into conversations (in appropriate contexts) that he has a demonstrated history of not telling the truth, just to reinforce that I don’t automatically buy everything he says now.
Monitoring Someone's Behavior Observing Body Language Assessing the Person's Risk Factors Community Q&A A pathological liar is someone who compulsively tells lies or fabricates information.
You’ll feel like Sherlock Holmes as you go through his Verizon phone bill checking to see who he’s been getting calls from late at night. Just remember to use a pay phone when you call those random numbers.
For example, when I first started dating my lying boyfriend, he lied and said he was spending New Year’s with his widowed mom — but his mom was actually out of the country while he was at a party with his ex. They craft stories so well that sometimes even start to believe them.
As someone who dated a liar for nearly four years, I’m here to share the special relationship perks that a dishonest person can provide. According to liars, they usually lie because their heart is in the right place.
Once he didn’t, I’d present the indisputable evidence. That was the only admission of guilt I would get, but I accepted it. So after I developed a pattern of confronting him with evidence, it became harder for him to automatically offer a lie as an explanation because there was a risk that I had done/would do more research to confirm the truth.
So at least at that point he would second guess his decision to just make something up.